Do you often receive gifts and gestures from others? And do you dream about it, my love? Do you dream of your partner taking care of you with romantic gestures and gifts? Or your friends and family surprise you with gestures and gifts?
The first and most important question I sincerely want you to answer here is:
do you make gifts and gestures to yourself?
How do you feel about spending money on yourself, love? How does it feel to make an effort for yourself, love? What's the most expensive thing you've ever given yourself? What's the biggest gesture you've ever done for yourself?
If you don't make gestures and gifts to yourself, it's very likely that the people around you won't do it for you either.
If you long to receive that kind of love, it's time to fill yourself up with it.
HOW?
When you start giving yourself gestures and gifts yourself.
If you don't have the opportunity for big and expensive gifts, start with something small, but do it REGULARLY. Just start the process, learn to give and receive at the same time. But how?! With practice - literally start doing it.
And since the gifts will be from you - for you - you will do both at the same time.
Learn to spend with pleasure on yourself.
Start by promising to give yourself something every day or at least 2-3 times a week.
It can be a chocolate, or a flower or a small accessory, but get used to giving yourself, love, incessantly.
And if you have the opportunity - why not give yourself something bigger. And even if you don't have such a big opportunity - why not set aside something for yourself at least once a week.
Observe your feelings and inner dialogue with this idea. What are you experiencing? Is something stopping you? If so, what?
Do I deserve it?
Am I worth it?
Am I valuable enough?
Do I feel uncomfortable?
If so, from what?
Am I ashamed?
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If sub-themes with an emotion come up - rework the emotion, beloved, as we do in the experiences/programs to rework an emotion.
Look for what actions on the part of others or yourself do you most often feel this emotion? When did you first experience it - by whom and what was the action that made you feel that way.
It doesn't matter if you identify it from your childhood or your present - it's important to catch the actions that cause you or have caused you to experience it.
Now is the time to find the same actions in your attitude towards yourself. Do I show these actions to myself in my daily life?
When I identify the action towards myself that brings me this emotion it is time to change it by replacing it with a new daily action on this topic that brings me the emotion I want.
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Starting to give yourself the gifts and gestures you long for is a way to fill yourself with this kind of love language.
DON'T FORGET THE OTHERS TOO
start giving the same to others. If you can - you can do it at the same time. You can give yourself and others love in gifts at the same time. For example, buying chocolate or flowers for your girlfriends. Or a book, or a candle, or something else you know will make them happy. Think of nice gestures that will make them happy and do them.
if you still don't feel like doing this for others. Give yourself some time, fill yourself with this love first. And then, start doing it for others.
You will see how quickly new energy will move into your life and change you. Both you and your world ❤️
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